Taming a Natural Beauty’s Natural Hair

My children are blessed with beautiful caramel colored skin, thanks to the mixed influence of my dark skin and the fair complexion of Mr BAM. They have the best of both world’s with my Bajan origins (my parents are from Barbados) and Mr BAM’s Kiwi origin (from New Zealand). They have the culture, stories and inspirational grand-parents and great-grandparents to boot. The one downside to this mixed up family is the resulting hair of Mr P and Little Miss. Ok, I don’t want to call it a downside – it’s fun, it’s crazy curly…and strait, and wavy, soft and textured all at once. Oy! How am I to tame the curls?

My mom has been bothering me since Little Miss sprouted hair to ‘do something with it’. Sending not-so-subtle hints like brushes and hair bows in the mail and asking ‘When are you going to comb her hair?’ I was of the opinion that she is a baby, when else in life would she be able to roam so freely, her afro-curly-straight mop of hair blowing in the wind. I hate getting caught up in the whole hair movement more than I need to. In fact, I never quite understood why parents seemed to obsess over their natural girl’s curls…until now. Showing an interest in our child’s hair isn’t vain, it’s just about looking neat.

The morning I took the picture above is when it all changed. Mr BAM loked at me and said, ‘Ok, we’ve got to do something with her hair’. I concurred that even though she is the most shining little girl inside and out, the knots and tangles were looking beyond messy, worst after naps and big toss and turn sleeps. So I went on the search for the baby equivalent of the haircare products that have helped me *finally* come to terms with my natural hair.

I was forced to go natural in 2003 when I moved back to New Zealand. Their were only a handful of salons up and down the country that catered to black hair, and if I was to get my beloved relaxer I was likely to burn half my scalp and lose hair in the process. So there you go, I was a forced naturalista. Over 8 years in New Zealand, and I can’t say I ever really loved my hair, I knotted, twisted and just managed my dry hair. Fast forward to 2011 when I moved to NYC from NZ and couldn’t wait to try ALL the products on the market. I started with other natural brands, with little to no success, but it wasn’t until I stumbled upon Shea Moisture that I found a product my hair took to. My curls are bouncy, springy and overall my hair is healthy. A little over a year ago, I went to a salon here in Brooklyn and treated myself to a blowout and was presently surprised when the stylist said I had healthy hair, thanks in part to how I was treating it.

Excuse the dirty mirror, but I love my natural hair!

Back to the story at hand. Because Little Miss’ hair is more soft and curly then kinky and curly like mine, I decided that rather than their AH-MAZING Curling Souffle I would try to define her curls with the Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk. Success! It is such a versatile product that allows me to straighten her hair, pull it into the ever adorable little girl pigtails, or just leave it curly-wurly without the knots. Finally, her hair is one texture/style at once, instead of 3 or 5. The Walgreens near me didn’t have any products from the baby line, but I figured if the adult line of products had ingredients good enough for my hair, it would be good enough for hers.

Without further ado, here are the styles her dad created. Yes, her dad looooves doing her hair. Truth be told she sits better with him than she does with me anyhow.

Daddy doing his magic on Little Miss

Must be the yoghurt she had before, she just doesn't move!

Rocking the straight look while reading her fave book - Boo the Cutest Dog in the World

Now that I have the knots and texture sorted, I have another question for all you moms:

How do you get your toddler to sit long enough to do her hair? Share your tips!

disclosure: I received no compensation for this post. I genuinely love the product and just wanted to share with my readers.

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14 Responses to Taming a Natural Beauty’s Natural Hair
  1. Jenn
    March 28, 2013 | 2:52 pm

    My oldest were boys so I just buzzed their hair and it was only a fight every other month! DD1 is just getting hair and I’m scared! lol!
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    • Ghada V
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      March 28, 2013 | 10:20 pm

      Yes, be scared, It’s more than I can handle some days! And my boy has beautiful curly hair, so no bussing that away LOL

  2. Jesica H
    March 28, 2013 | 4:19 pm

    We actually use the knot genie, before that my daughter would not let me near her hair, lol.
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    • Ghada V
      Twitter: OMGhada
      March 28, 2013 | 10:20 pm

      Oh, I’ve heard of that! May have to add it to my arsenal of haircare products

  3. Cinny
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    March 28, 2013 | 5:40 pm

    LOL! That hair looks hard to control but it’s ever so cute!
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  4. Emily
    March 28, 2013 | 6:05 pm

    Your little one is so cute :). I don’t envy moms of little girls, sometimes it’s a pain to get my 2 year old nephew (who has a really short cut) to sit still for the 10 seconds that it takes to comb his hair, lol.
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    • Ghada V
      Twitter: OMGhada
      March 28, 2013 | 10:22 pm

      With my son we can put him in front of the TV so we can brush and comb through his hair. If we don’t, he’ll get dreads. With her, she’s not into TV (which is a good thing!) she gets enough entertainment from her big brother :)

  5. Jeannette
    March 28, 2013 | 6:26 pm

    I think your little one’s hair is precious! I have two boys so I don’t have to worry about getting mine to sit still – we just thrown on a hat and go:-)
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    • Ghada V
      Twitter: OMGhada
      March 28, 2013 | 10:22 pm

      That’s what I do on alot of days for my own hair :)

  6. Elle
    Twitter: Elleberra
    March 29, 2013 | 4:15 pm

    I think her hair is lovely. I’m glad you found a way to “tame” it.

    It seems a shame to have to worry about hair at that age but I guess letting it get into knots and rat’s tails wouldn’t be good either.
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  7. Holly
    April 23, 2013 | 4:37 pm

    I am so going to have to look at this for my daughter. While she doesn’t have the ethnic hair she has curls that are uncontrollable. As for sitting still I have no clue! I’m still fighting with her and she’s almost 5.
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    • Ghada V
      April 23, 2013 | 5:43 pm

      They have a really good Facebook page with lots of styles of the product being used on all different types of hair. My son’s hair naturally dreads over night, and I can use Shea Moisture to untangle his hair and bring the curl back.

  8. marissa lee
    May 9, 2013 | 10:36 pm

    your daughter is beautiful…i;m also mixed and so is my daughter…i like the way her hair came out…my daughter also have curly hair and i think i am going to look for that product and try it on mine and my daughters hair,,thank you,

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    July 25, 2013 | 12:39 am

    I am considerably prone to have to think this for my personal daughter. And she doesn’t make the cultural blow she has curls which are uncontrollable. As for seat still I lack idea! I’m still suffering from her and she’s approximately

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